what if we got little blip bloops in our heart whenever someone was thinking about us? wouldn’t humans feel so much less alone about existing? when will evolution give this to us please let me know thank you
I know I’m only taking three classes and two pass/ fail classes this semester, but this is not as easy as my first year. For one thing, the three classes I’m taking (BIO 152 Genetics, EDC 232 American Middle & High School, and SWG 222 Gender, Law, and Policy) are all large 30~60 people classes. Last year, I at least had my small English 118 class to feel comfortable in. It also doesn’t help that 2 out of the 3 classes are humanities… It takes a while for me to find myself in these class discussions and overflowing heaps of readings. Especially when these topics of discussion are kind of new to me; I don’t feel like I have the expertise to contribute to the discussion.
In my first year, I just took the required intro classes for my major, so there wasn’t much to worry about in terms of course registration. But now that I’m in my second year, I have to start thinking about my major advisor, getting research opportunities, fitting all the classes I want to take, and even start thinking about grad school and future careers.
Not sure if it was a smart move for me to put myself in the co-chair position of ASA (Asian Student Association). There are a lot of things that I didn’t know about funding events that I had to take a lot of time to ask around old ASA members.
But with all this slump and stress, I should end on a good note and say that I’m going to do my best and actually mean it.
The worst thing about sophomore year is that you feel like you’ve got the whole college thing figured out from first year, and you feel tempted to sign up for a lot of responsibilities like 200-level courses and org positions since you learned so much from first year.
Sophomore year is not easy, and it’s especially not easy when you go into it with so many ideas of what you want to do and not enough attention to your needs. Smithies tend to be driven, and this can actually come back to bite you as you over-commit in your quest to push yourself. While challenges are important, your mental and physical health and well-being are much more vital. You need to have enough energy and time to devote to the classes and organizations and people you care about, without wearing yourself down.
First, forget about post-graduation plans or grad school*. Period. It’s way, way, WAY too early if you are a student at a 4 year college in the USA, and no matter what any over-eager advisor tells you, it’s a waste of your time and emotional energy. Forget about post-grad completely. Focus on this year and this summer, and maybe plans for junior year, like going abroad. It is totally fine to have no idea what your major is yet, or what classes you want to be taking. Your experiences and relationships and time will show you the way. Once you know, you’ll know. Try to take classes in a variety of fields (and a variety of class sizes—too many small classes can be suffocating, but too many huge classes can be stressful). Try not to take more than four 4-credit classes a semester, even if they are pass/fail. Remember that you are spending a lot of valuable time going to those classes and doing (some of) the work, even if it’s only p/f.
Give your time the value it deserves. It’s precious, and it belongs to you. Don’t live on four hours of sleep a night or skip meals to do work—it isn’t okay. It’s not healthy. Don’t dedicate yourself to be busy from dawn to dusk every day. You need free time and rest, too. Put “Me Time” into your schedule. If something comes up, say “I’m busy during that time.” Get busy taking care of yourself. Also, studying with friends can be a great stress-relief, because you’re getting work done and also seeing people you like. (Depending on your study style—some people do better alone, and that’s fine too!)
You can always text a junior/senior friend to hang out/get advice, too! We’ve all been there.
I know you can do it! Hang in there!!
*this is advice from my parents, who were both longtime professors at the U of M graduate school. They always said that the biggest mistake you can make is choosing a grad school in your first year of college and going to grad school right after undergrad graduation. Inevitably, it will be the wrong choice for you and a waste of your time and money. Do not go to grad school right away unless you are 100% certain and in love with a very specific field. If at all possible, you want to concentrate on getting summer/post-grad internships/jobs in the field you think you may go into. A few months working in a position may radically change your idea of your future goals!
There are brain scans showing a significant difference in the brains of trans women and trans men.
To quickly summarize the links of information: Trans women’s brains are more female, and trans men’s brains are more male. Their brain identifies more with their identified gender (as in a trans woman identifying as a woman in every day life) rather than their sex (genitalia, and such).
Respectfully, I caution you that this study was conducted in 1995 in the Netherlands with a small sample (hardly a representative group), and most significantly, since then the “hypothalamus/corpus callosum shows sex differences” idea has been largely discredited as constructed sexist B.S. For further info on that, check out Sexing the Body: Gender Politics and the Construction of Sexuality by Anne Fausto-Sterling (2000). I’m not saying that trans people don’t have genetic/physical differences, just that this particular study and the articles on it are not fit to be relied on as a good source of information.
the world is incredible. there are girls in this world, and there are also dogs. you can put melted cheese on any type of potato. sometimes flowers grow even when nobody is there to water them. right now on this same planet where we live there are people who are in love with each other kissing each other on the nose. emotions and colours are both things that exist. everything is so great
I used to think you were like super cool and awesome and a great all around humble person, but lately you've been so negative and hateful constantly, I find it hard to think of you the same. I completely understand why though, it just sucks that it's all I hear from you now.
I get a ton of messages via my various social media platforms from people who’ve watched my content for years and consider me a “friend in their head”, which is super flattering. I really pride myself on staying connected to my audience and hate the idea of calling people “fans” because the last thing I want is for anyone to think I’m better or above them. I’m very fortunate to have had a lengthy career on YouTube which has opened lots of doors for me and connected me with amazing people around the world. But because online creators are so easily accessible through social media, I think it’s easy for people to forget that they don’t actually know the people behind the content.
What you see of me online is just a sliver of my personality and what I’m interested in. But make no mistake, I’m just as real in person as I am online. (I mention that only because that hasn’t always been my experience when meeting vloggers and celebrities.) But there are lots of aspects of my life that I don’t reveal online, many of which are an important part of who I am as a person. It’s unfortunate that your opinion of me has changed over time, but to me that just confirms that you don’t really know me. Which is why I’m ok with it. Here’s the thing, I think it’s possible to acknowledge that I think I’m awesome and also be humble at the same time. I thank my audience every day, I answer tons of emails and messages from people asking for advice, I remind people that I’m flawed and imperfect and still manage to create and share content that I’m passionate about. It’s true, my content has changed over time, but I’m the same person I’ve always been, albeit more conscious and passionate about the world around me. I don’t see anything “hateful” or “negative” about fighting for equality for others, but you’re certainly entitled to your opinion.
At the end of the day, I am very proud of the woman I am today. And I’m grateful for the amazing people who’ve helped me get to where I am. That doesn’t mean there isn’t room for improvement, but I’m very secure in who I am, which has taken a looong time to get to. But a big part of my personal journey has been realizing and accepting that not everyone is going to like me and that’s ok. If you’re unhappy with the content I produce or share, I promise I won’t take it personally if you choose to stop following along. Everything is not for everyone, including little ole’ me. Best of luck.